Everyday Victim Blaming

challenging institutional disbelief around domestic & sexual violence and abuse

Women Cause Male Violence

My friend John punch his girlfriend Leena on the arm. She told him it hurt and he just kept laughing. At breakfast John pushed her out of the chair and apologized stating that he didn't realize she would fall when he shoved her.

The next day we saw a married couple of almost 50 years walk by and John told his girlfriend that he would kill her after 20 years and stuff her under floor board and introduce her as the boring wife.

After dinner a mutual friend and I left and in the car ride home I told her what had happened. She raised her voice and told me I needed therapy.

She said that I had become too dark. After which she exclaimed that John sensed my fear of men so it caused him to react by becoming violent towards Leena.


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