Everyday Victim Blaming

challenging institutional disbelief around domestic & sexual violence and abuse

who’s crazy?

after leaving an abusive marriage - why am I the one considered "mentally ill" isn't the one abusing me the one sick? this is my best example of "victim blaming" victims are always labeled "ill" while abusers are labelled mentally healthy- victim is ill not the abuser- ya blame the victim's illness yet the victim got ill CAUSED by the abuse- my mind has never been clearer yet considered ILL



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  • Lynda says:

    i’ve been through this and sad to say because i have been diagnosed as having a mental health problem i ve been blamed not only for my own rape but also called a liar but also been blamed for my children’s abuse and called a liar and they to have been called a liar. I’ve been victim blamed, bullied, humiliated, lied about while he’s been vindicated by the professionals. it not only hurts alot its abusive to be called a liar and cruel and unkind your brave because your telling your story Domestic violence abusers hide and manipulate professionals to get on their side to see the victim as crazy and a liar and can manipulate the professionals who work in that area of work. Stay strong you know what happened to you if you can and your ready speak to Domestic violence adviser also i recommended the freedom programme that really help me understand the kind of behaviours in my relationship that were negative and unhelpful. Good luck and take care keep safe kind regards Lynda