Everyday Victim Blaming

challenging institutional disbelief around domestic & sexual violence and abuse

Was it rape?

A year ago I went to comfort a friend who went through a break up, we drove around for a while and then we ended up at his parents barn. Well it started out with him just fingering me which I felt a little uncomfortable about but not to the point of freaking out. Then he started "dry humping" me but I didn't have my pants on. I felt his penis go inside me and I said "uhm no" I thought he had his pants on.. I froze and it happened multiple times.. my question is. Was it actually rape?


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