Everyday Victim Blaming

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Was I raped?

My husband and I have been separated since January, however neither of us can afford to move out and we have agreed to still actively be a family with our son (3). We live in a small 2 bed so we still share a bed a night, 90% of the time this is not a problem. We have had sex a handful of times (consensual on both parts). However there have been 4 separate incidents, most recently this morning that I have said no to his advances and he continues, he will hold my arms etc which I know in myself is rape, but after a while i will stop fighting, will let him kiss me whilst having penetrative sex, because I know if I don't it will be a house full of arguments for the day which I don't want our son to listen to. I don't know what to do


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