victim blaming at its worst
I grew up with toxic parents.As an adult,i had to cope somehow with my traumatic memories from my past.As a form of healing therapy,i go to the park everyday.I choose a remote bench and i just sit there and meditate for a few hours a day.Recently,a psychopath is following me everywhere i go.He is terrorizing me and i saw him in front of my window.I talked to a woman and she blamed me and told me that this is all my fault.In her opinion,i'm guilty for coming to the park each day.She said that the psycho has the right to think that i'm a slut looking for sex.After all,i'm single and i'm the one giving him mixed messages.That woman shouted at me as loud as she could.I felt ashamed of myself and humiliated.Am i guilty because i like being single and i love nature? Is it wrong to be a loner,an introvert and not married? She told me that the psycho was mentally ill and so am i because i didn't get married and because i roam the park.She said that a moral woman doesn't do what i do.She accused me of being sicker than the psycho.
The police told that there's nothing they can do until he attacks me.Right now,i have no proof against him.The park is a public domain and he has every right to be wherever he wants.What about prevention? i asked.Why do we have to wait for him to make a first victim instead of preventing it? They said that prevention was entirely my job.According to the police,the law only intervenes AFTER an attack.They told me i shouldn't have put MYSELF in danger and that it was all my fault for bringing this upon me.
I want to scream because i don't get it.Why all that stigma for single introverted women who become victims? Now,society looks at me like i'm a hooker looking for trouble.Whenever i tell people about my situation,they run away in a panick,like i have the plague or something.Their message to me is:"You got yourself into this.Now don't expect to be rescued as you're no longer a respectable woman."
Why all the victim blaming? Why can't people just walk away from me without adding insult to injury? Why is it mandatory to get married and to have a husband to protect me? If i sit on a bench in the park quietly,it just means that i want fresh air and NOTHING ELSE. For god's sake,i'm not interested in men.I don't want any man to approach me,let alone harass me.
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