Everyday Victim Blaming

challenging institutional disbelief around domestic & sexual violence and abuse

Victim Blaming

They will say, it was a realationship.
They will say, maybe he didn´t hear you.
They will say, it was no real rape.
They will say, he´s just a man.
They will say, it isn´t as bad as you think.
They will say, that´s just how men are.
They will say, it was kind of your fault.
They will say, you probably didn´t say it clearly enough.
They will say, it wasn´t that bad, others have it worse.
They will say, why didn´t you just leave.

He was your boyfriend, they say.
he was drunk, they say.

She didn´t say it clearly enough, they say.
She couldn´t expect something different, they say.

But he raped her. That is what they don´t say.


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