Tired of Being Blamed
I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. He had always been very supportive of me and had never been the jealous type. A couple years ago I was sexually assaulted by a neighbor, who I trusted and thought was a friend. I waited a few days before I filed a police report because the guy who assaulted me threatened me. I finally worked up the courage to file a police report. I was interrogated multiple times by the detective. I begged for a polygraph test but was told that it would be a very long process to get it approved and the case was thrown out before it even made it to a court room due to "too much he said she said". I went to therapy for a while and it was rough on me and my boyfriend, but we made it through and I thought we were back to normal. A couple nights ago he brought up the assault. I didn't think I would ever have to talk about it again, nor did I want to. But I told my boyfriend what happened for the second time in 2 years. My boyfriend is now saying that I "changed my story" which I did not. And he is blaming me all over again. He wants me to take a polygraph to prove it "wasn't cheating". I am willing to take the test because I have nothing to hide. But I shouldn't have to and I am so offended and angry and hurt. If he wants to pay a big chunk of change just to look like a fool, so be it.
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