Everyday Victim Blaming

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My brother

So umm when I was younger I had a brother who was 5 years older than me.i really loved my brother I still do.but when I was younger he would like trade me candy and toys and stuff to preform sexual acts on him.i knew what sex was but I thought it was wrong I think I was like 5,or 6 at the time.so I am 14 now and some times I think about that and start to cry because I know it was my fault because I knew it was wrong but did it.


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3 thoughts on “My brother

  • Nat says:

    I believe you. You are NOT to blame. You were abused by someone older than you, who you should have been able to trust. You did NOTHING wrong. I hope you can heal and forgive yourself. Please look after yourself and don’t allow ANYONE to blame you for this. X

  • Rebecca says:

    You are in no way to blame and this is not your fault at all. Y

    ou are incredibly brave to post your story and I hope you have someone to confide in.

  • Hecuba says:

    You are not responsible for your brother sexually preying on you. Sadly our society is a women-hating one wherein males are always exonerated for their male accountability especially when said males choose to sexually prey on females.

    You were just 5 or 6 when your older brother decided to sexually prey on you. The fact your brother is 5 years older gave him immense power over you because you were 5/6 and he was 10/11 years old.

    You did not have the power to resist your brother predator and your saying you knew what sex is doesn’t mean you are responsible for your brother’s behaviour/actions.

    I know it is hard accepting you aren’t to blame – but you aren’t – put the blame where it belongs with your sexual predator brother.