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His mother texted him saying “why did you get back together with her?”

I stumbled upon this site today while on google trying to find people who have dealt with what I'm dealing with.

I've been with my emotionally abusive addict boyfriend for almost a year. Recently I broke up with him because I woke up to him saying he hates me and that I'm a piece of shit. I later went to my apartment and he was already inside waiting for me. I told him I would call the police if he didn't leave. He wouldn't leave. I warned him again. Still wouldn't leave. So I called, and he still wouldn't leave.

After days of him begging for me back with promises of having changed, I finally have been seeing him again. This morning I saw that his mom had texted him saying, "why did you get back with her? Now she's going to call the cops every time she gets mad. He also made a Facebook post, "my girl called the cops on me" and publicly talked shit with everybody who commented.

I can't be crazy. This isn't my fault. Right?



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2 thoughts on “His mother texted him saying “why did you get back together with her?”

  • Admin says:

    This isn’t your fault. Your boyfriend is emotionally abusive addict whose mother is colluding with abuse by minimising and erasing his behaviour. Calling your partner a piece of shit is abusive. You deserve a partner who loves and respects you, who respects your boundaries and who does not publicly trash you.

    This is the Freephone 24 hr National Domestic Violence Helpline Run in partnership between Women’s Aid & Refuge:
    0808 2000 247

    You can also find advice here: http://www.nationaldomesticviolencehelpline.org.uk/if-you-are-a-woman-experiencing-domestic-violence.aspx

  • Michelle says:

    This is not your fault and he will use those around him to make you look like you are the one with the issue. Your NOT!!! He sounds very controlling, can you get some advice from your local domestic abuse service?