Family Courts and DV
I have wanted to speak out and be part a big change in the local government ways of handling family disputes out regarding dv. Through the Family courts.
I am currently a Victim being blamed for issues when my child sees their abusive dad.
Cafcass are pro - dad and even part of some children's messed up emotional states when they are forced to see fathers who are not real dad's.
I was questioned for 2 hrs on why my child says he doesn't want to see dad. And told that dad didn't try to suffocate/kill me. I imagined it !
An outside firm was recommended by my ex solicitor to supervise contact. They refused to report the serious dv I enclosed to children's services or discuss it in notes. Or say anything negative about contact at all. When they knew the most serious things u couldn't with old from he/she. It was too important.
Mothers who bring up a violent partners child are blamed for the issues that carry on, even after we have left and re keeping our child/ren safe.
I feel guilty every day for having his child. Despite being completely committed to bringing them up to a high standard of care. I didn't know that a panel of strangers unqualified would be allowed to tell you where and when your child should see their father. Despite evidence from organisations that two attacks of more serious dv had happened. MARAC assesment had been done. Meaning a multi agency meeting Inc the police had occurred and the safety of mother and child been discussed.
My care is being questioned in keeping my child safe as I am concerned and discuss contact times. To ensure my child is emotionally ok and assess if anything bad has happened. Children don't often disclose if at all.
Apparently I'm causing harm by asking assess everyday question like after school. Did you have a nice day ? Did you do any maths today ?.
It is well known that abusive fathers poison their child's mind against mum. Which is emotional abuse. Not taking an interest in your child's life when your not there!
I was blamed for the court process lasting nearly 2 years by dad's solicitor. But was provided with no evidence and the court accepted it as a way to sway their decision to who should be listened to. Anything to make it easier for them.
I changed Cafcass workers. I was told it wouldn't take long. It took nearly 3 mnths. I changed solicitors as mine had no experience of dv cases. That didn't take long.
The social worker is refusing to assist safe contact by doing checks and having dad have blood tests. To change the type of contact needed. She won't support me emotionally or safeguard my young child. My mental health issue from the past is being used against me, as to why I can't manage contact without support. I can't because the courts are trying to force me to put my child in a high risk situation where he will be neglected physically more. Plus emotionally and possible physically abused again
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