Everyday Victim Blaming

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Bullying – common after rape

I tried to report rape in 2008. Unfortunately police never took me seriously.

I was blamed for being older, out or leading him on.

I was told to forget about it by the police, who took no action despite my complaints which were numerous.

This left the rapist to bully me and victimize me around the town - along with his mates and wife. Its soul destroying this was allowed to happen.

But it all stems from the system not wanting to do anything about these men.


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2 thoughts on “Bullying – common after rape

  • Redskies says:

    Thank you for being brave and sharing this. I believe you.

  • Admin says:

    Thank you for sharing your experience with us. We believe you.

    The system is set up to fail victims – we see the latest police report into how they manage rape, and we know that these failures are not about individuals, but about the system.

    By sharing this with us, you are helping to have your voice heard, with ours – we can be loud and we can demand change.

    Sending peaceful thoughts x