Blamed for my assault
In a recent twitter discussion with @everydaysexism i shared how i had been sexually harassed and then assaulted as a school child by a man on my route home aged 13 and that the street harassment from men where ever i went has never really ended.
I am 33 now so the last 20 years of my life have been under male gaze. A man instantly tweeted at me that i needed to take some responsibility for all this because i was an "attention seeker" for having a purple streak in my hair.
Irrespective of the fact i was sharing childhood sexual assault, he made me entirely responsible for it and could not accept that I could dye a little bit of my hair for any reason other than to want men to rape/taunt/harass/threaten me. I apparently ask for it and must "love it".
So there are men out there who sit and wait for survivors to speak out to slut-shame and slap them down. And yes, you'll notice that my "attention-whoring" hairstyle in my thirties is retroactively responsible for the actions of a man 20 years previous when i had no colour in my hair as a 13 year old school child. Some people will go to any lengths not to place liability firmly at the abusers door.
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