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abuse (content note for rape)

I was married for 16 years.to a compulsive sleep rapist who would touch me.against my will and coerce.me.into doing more and more things that I didn't want to do. I got pregnant and only realised it was due to sleep rape about ten years after it happened. I used to joke I must have been asleep as I didn't remember having sex without using contraception! I used to cry as he had sex with me.but he didn't notice or care, I don't know which. He made me feel like a bad wife and like I was mad. He said I should go and get treatment for my anger, looking back its no wonder I was angry,I was being abused on an almost daily basis. He dulled like a small child of I didn't give.in to his demands. I was a naive 15 year old.when I got together with him. I only realised that it was rape and abuse recently. I feel dirty, used and disgusted that I allowed myself to be treated like that, and ashamed that most people think I was angry for no reason she I endured that abuse for twenty years.

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  • Admin says:

    We believe you. It was not your fault. You have nothing to feel ashamed about.

    These are the free phone numbers for the national rape crisis organisations in the UK. The phone lines are staffed by trained volunteers who are there to listen. You can also find local support services on their websites. They are always available if you need someone to listen or just to hear a friendly voice

    Rape Crisis Scotland: http://www.rapecrisisscotland.org.uk
    Freephone 08088 01 03 02
    (Every day, 6pm to midnight)

    Rape Crisis England/ Wales: http://rapecrisis.org.uk
    Freephone 0808 802 9999
    (12-2.30pm and 7-9.30pm every day, and 3-5.30pm weekdays)