Everyday Victim Blaming

challenging institutional disbelief around domestic & sexual violence and abuse

Personal Experiences

My so called friend

I had a friend that i hung out with about a month ago and we weren’t into eachother in a sexual type way. It was our second time hanging out and we decided before we seen eachother that we were going to go to the movies and watch a movie but when he came to […]

I got raped, boyfriend said it’s my fault.

Hey guys, I wanted to tell you a bit about what has happened to me a few months ago and how it is now. Basically what happened to me is that I was out partying, I got drugged and woke up the next morning at a strangers house. I couldn’t remember what happened last night. […]

29 years ago but it feels like yesterday

I just saw pictures of my rapist on Facebook. I last saw his face when I was a naive, scared, 19-year-old. He stole my virginity and I’m still angry that my first sexual experience was violent. I wish I could give my virginity to my fiancé, but I can’t, and it’s a loss that I’ll […]

Long time Ago… (content note for rape)

This happened a very long time ago. I was over 19, under 23. I am 40 now. It was a party and our regular crew was there. I had dated one of the crew for 3 years and we had since split up but every time we were around each other we ended up having […]

victim not recognized (content note for rape)

I’m from Texas in a small west country town. On June 27 2016 I was raped by I don’t know how many guys that I thought would never hurt me in a cruel disgusting way. My boyfriend was incarcerated at the time but received a letter from a person I also thought was my friend […]

Domestic abuse

I was attacked by my husband during and after my marriage. The police said they didn’t have time to investigate. They asked me if he’d strangled me. I said ‘not much, just a bit during sex. I didn’t like it’. They seemed disappointed. I told my mother. She said ‘you don’t strike me as a […]

im so confused. (content note for rape)

last night I had a horrible experience and afterwards, I felt almost assaulted. my husnand of 9 years, has always been very needy when it came to sex. last night we were laying down watching a movie, and a commercial came on and he flipped me over and pulled my panites down. than tried going […]


As a 14 yr old runaway from an abusive an neglectful home I hitch hiked to N.C. With my 16 yr. old sister who had previously married a high school boyfriend that joined the Marines. While living there in a trailer with “friends” of my sister I met a man named JH* who lived down the […]

was it rape?

A long time ago I was in my first relationship, we had been together for almost a year and we’re living together. One afternoon we started to have consensual vaginal sex. Half way threw I felt my partner withdraw and felt a sharp pain. He had started, in knowingly to me, penetrate my anus. We […]

Blaming and shaming

I was physically assaulted for the first time when I was 4, by my father. My most recent assault happened last summer. My boyfriends friend cornered me and sexually assaulted me at a Memorial Day party. I’ve had 2 separate boyfriends attack me, and one of those was severe. I couldn’t walk for two days […]

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