Everyday Victim Blaming

challenging institutional disbelief around domestic & sexual violence and abuse

women’s aid

Equal rights, different needs by Polly Neate

Yes, men need support for domestic abuse. No, domestic abuse is not gender-neutral. Our Chief Executive Polly Neate blogs on why we can’t treat men and women the same when it comes to domestic abuse We need to encourage all victims of domestic abuse to come forward, writes Michael Malone for the Telegraph. Yes, indeed. Until more »

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MPs call for end to abusive men using courts against families, by Sandra Laville

The government must carry out a full review of family courts to stop them being used by violent men to perpetuate abuse against their partners and children, MPs have said. … MPs were debating research by Women’s Aid which revealed that between 2005 and 2015, 19 children in 12 families were killed by violent fathers who had more »

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Child First: Safe Child Contact Saves Lives

We fully support the new campaign by Women’s Aid called Child First: Safe Child Contact Saves Lives, which calls on the Government, family court judiciary, Child and Family Courts Advisory and Support Service (Cafcass), and other involved services to make child contact safer for women and children. The report Nineteen Child Homicides, which details serious crime more »

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Our concerns with the #blackdotcampaign

We have been aware of the Black Dot campaign, which asks women living with domestic violence to place a black dot on their hand if they would like others to reach out to them, since it was founded. We have chosen not to speak publicly about the campaign until this weekend as we understood that it more »

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The Sun’s Campaign to Save Refuges

We are conflicted about this campaign from The Sun. Raising greater awareness of domestic violence is absolutely essential. Far too many people believe that domestic violence is something that happens to “those women” and most rarely consider who perpetrators actually are. The media rarely gives accurate coverage to the reality of domestic violence: that 1 in 4 more »

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Besotted vs Controlling

The Northern Echo published an article on March 15th with the headline “Besotted Darlington man behind bars after terrifying campaign against partner” The article was promptly challenged by Professor Nicole Westmarland who asked them to change the word ‘besotted’ to ‘controlling’. The online edition was updated very quickly. They also added a link to Women’s more »

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A ‘light-hearted look at who killed Lucy Beale’

BBC article: EastEnders: Lucy Beale’s killer – the likely suspects Having read the Counting Dead women project  I have come to understand that behind the statistics on the murders of women are the murdered women themselves. The women living their lives, striving for survival and happiness having their lives stolen by violent men. Karen Ingala more »

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Why doesn’t she just leave?

Imagine if instead of saying “why doesn’t she leave him?” we said “why doesn’t he leave her?” Imagine if we thought that men who control, threaten and manipulate women are responsible for their actions and that they should be the ones to leave. Imagine if wondering why she puts up with it, we wonder why he does it in the first place. Imagine if, more »

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Holding our politicians accountable

This week, Cheltenham Borough councillor Barbara Driver has stepped down after using the phrase: “(t)here is a saying and I’m going to say it: When rape is inevitable, lie back and enjoy it” in reference to a new housing development. This misuse of language by politicians is not unusual. Victim blaming is. Eric Pickles allegedly told a survivor of child more »

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“Why doesn’t she just leave him?”: The result of false narratives on women’s lives.

Today I have had the misfortune of reading Maureen Messent’s comment piece for the Birmingham Mail entitled ‘Our ‘holy cows’ are own worst enemies’ (http://www.donotlink.com/f0Z) which is heavy on the victim blaming bile and ignorant, pro-police opinion but lacks absolutely any facts, figures or even anecdotes. Even Richard Littlejohn has the imagination to use ridiculous more »

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