Everyday Victim Blaming

challenging institutional disbelief around domestic & sexual violence and abuse

sexual violence

What happened here?

I feel guilty even posting about this, but two years ago my spouse and I helped organize a birthday party for a mutual friend (z). He booked a weekend at a rental and z started up a Facebook event page, where the activities planned included drinking, drugs, and very specific ideas like fanfic reading, hiking, more »

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Marital Rape and Domestic Violence – sought help, found more pain

I was the careful and reserved type. A hopeless romantic that wanted to share everything with my one and only. I had been duped into thinking I found a kind and loving man to spend my life with. The ‘love’ and ‘adoration’ he showered on me while he was pursuing me, was enough to blind more »

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Theo and the distinctly sexual flavour of French racism by @KGuilaine

Content warning: contains detailed descriptions of sexual abuse On 2 February, a 22-year-old black French man named Theo was allegedly violently raped with a police truncheon, gang assaulted and racially abused by four French police officers in the Parisian suburb of Aulnay-sous-Bois. So severe were the anal injuries sustained by Theo that he needed major more »

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No, wives ‘withholding sex’ are not to blame for male violence by Laura Bates

Wives who don’t have enough sex with their husbands are partly to blame for men committing sexual assault, according to an articlepublished by the Daily Mail. The writer, Dr Catherine Hakim, claims that “decent” husbands whose wives “starve” them of sex are driven to affairs and “forced to seek relief elsewhere”, resulting in “a profoundly negative more »

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Incredible guilt and shame (content note)

Omg, just came across this. Been trying to process this all… Crying. I was never able to think of it in any other way than it being me.. You just explained a whole different aspect of it! Okay, so here it goes…this is not easy, but I’ll try. Courage, right?! The thing about arousal, excitement more »

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16 ways to End Violence against Women and Girls

The International Day for the Eliminations of Violence against Women kicks off 16 days of global activism. Here are 16 ways that individuals can participate and support these global campaigns against structural and systemic violence against women and girls. 1. Donate £1 to a different national campaigns and specialist women’s service like Rape Crisis England Wales, Scottish more »

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In the news: coercive control and rape culture

Stanford Sexual Assault Case Survivor Emily Doe Speaks Out via @glamourmag  … From the beginning, I was told I was a best case scenario. I had forensic evidence, sober un­biased witnesses, a slurred voice mail, police at the scene. I had everything, and I was still told it was not a slam dunk. I thought, more »

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