Everyday Victim Blaming

challenging institutional disbelief around domestic & sexual violence and abuse

rape culture

Multiple sexual assaults

I have been sexually assaulted 13 times, 6 at school and 6 at a mental health institution. 1 in public. I believe at the institution they knew about the previous sexual assaults and wanted to skew that. Two of the sexual assaults were by another student in my year in High School. My ‘friends’ were more »

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In the news – DV decriminalised in Russia and rape culture in British court rooms

Domestic violence reports soar in Russian city after partial decriminalisation by Rachel Roberts Reports of domestic violence have more than doubled in Russia’s fourth largest city since the Government reduced the punishmentfor spousal or child abuse from a criminal to a civil one. Police in Yekaterinburg responded to 350 incidents of domestic violence daily since the law was relaxed compared more »

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It’s always high drama. It’s somebody’s life at stake’: inside British rape trials

…  Woodhouse is one of 12 volunteers working as observers on rape trials at Newcastle crown court. Nine women and three men, they are social workers, nurses, academics and counsellors, some retired, some not. Since January 2015, they have sat on 30 trials and made a string of recommendations: that barristers meet their clients before a more »

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i was raped and my boyfriend blamed me for months

Hi I’m new to this forum and would love any advice anyone can give me. Here is my story in a nut shell. I met my ex boyfriend in college. We dated for two years and he suffered from depression the entire time. The very beginning of the relationship was good, there were some signs more »

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Man arrested for racially-aggravated sexual assault. BBC headline gets confused with a carry-on film.

Due to the limited number of characters allowed by the BBC informal complaints, we have sent the following about the conviction of city lawyer Alistair Main:   Alistair Main has been convicted of one count of racially-aggravated assault and one of sexual assault. You minimise his criminal act of racialised sexual violence in your headline more »

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In the news – on Donald Trump and Nocturnal Animals

Welcome to a new era of  politically sanctioned patriarchy | Mona Eltahawy … The first foreign leader to call and congratulate Trump upon his election victory in November was the Egyptian president Abdel Fatah al-Sisi. Of course! I could not imagine two world leaders whose public record of misogyny better capture the politically sanctioned patriarchy more »

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Incredible guilt and shame (content note)

Omg, just came across this. Been trying to process this all… Crying. I was never able to think of it in any other way than it being me.. You just explained a whole different aspect of it! Okay, so here it goes…this is not easy, but I’ll try. Courage, right?! The thing about arousal, excitement more »

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I’m not sure how to cope (content note)

I came across this website looking for ways to cope and I figured I’d share here. It’s much easier for me to write about this than talk about it out loud. I haven’t necessarily been blamed so maybe this isn’t the right placed to post but I am in need of getting these feelings out. more »

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Ms – a personal experience of victim blaming an 11 year old girl by defence QC

We were contacted by witness protection and the CPS to let us know that the abuser was appealing in the royal courts of justice against his conviction and sentence, we were told that at the leave to appeal hearing his legal team would have the opportunity to present new evidence or evidence where incorrect procedure more »

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