Everyday Victim Blaming

challenging institutional disbelief around domestic & sexual violence and abuse

male violence

anonymous (content note for child rape)

I dont really know why Im being drawn to write this, Ive only shared this once, but maybe it will help some other ladies along their road towards healing. I am a 42 year old woman, married with 3 teenage girls. I struggled intense emotional abuse at the hands of my mom throughout my childhood, more »

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Invisible Women – The Wooden Spoon Award

This speech was given by Kirsty Strickland for the presentation of the Wooden Spoon Award at the Zero Tolerance Write to End Violence Awards. We are proud to support Zero Tolerance’s work to recognise the importance of quality journalism in the fight to eradicate male violence against women and girls.  … The wooden spoon award. Last year, the wooden more »

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Man arrested for racially-aggravated sexual assault. BBC headline gets confused with a carry-on film.

Due to the limited number of characters allowed by the BBC informal complaints, we have sent the following about the conviction of city lawyer Alistair Main:   Alistair Main has been convicted of one count of racially-aggravated assault and one of sexual assault. You minimise his criminal act of racialised sexual violence in your headline more »

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In the news – on Donald Trump and Nocturnal Animals

Welcome to a new era of  politically sanctioned patriarchy | Mona Eltahawy … The first foreign leader to call and congratulate Trump upon his election victory in November was the Egyptian president Abdel Fatah al-Sisi. Of course! I could not imagine two world leaders whose public record of misogyny better capture the politically sanctioned patriarchy more »

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In the news – sexual harassment in the workplace and femicide

Sussex University failed duty of care to assault victim, inquiry finds by David Batty The University of Sussex failed in its duty of care to a student who was assaulted by a lecturer, taking only the perpetrator’s account of their relationship into account when assessing the risk he posed, according to an independent inquiry. The report comes more »

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I’m not sure how to cope (content note)

I came across this website looking for ways to cope and I figured I’d share here. It’s much easier for me to write about this than talk about it out loud. I haven’t necessarily been blamed so maybe this isn’t the right placed to post but I am in need of getting these feelings out. more »

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Remembering Jill Saward

Last week, activist and campaigner Jill Saward died. Saward, who was raped by multiple perpetrators in 1986, was the first British woman to waive anonymity in order to campaign for better support and treatment of victims of sexualised violence, media accountability, and better training for juries. Our thoughts are with her family and friends at more »

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My boyfriend accuses me of doing gross things when I actually did not when I was raped

After being raped, I told everything to my boyfriend and he keeps accusing and saying I should have fought, screamed, etc. and accuses me of doing all kinds of ugly things that he thinks the rapist made me do. And he insist he believes it could not have happened any other way, because “no man more »

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In the News – the global context of violence against women and girls

‘Impunity has consequences’: the women lost to Mexico’s drug war by Nina Lakhani in Jalapa Lizbeth Amores dropped off her son at her mother’s house before heading to a house party with her friend Verenice Guevara. They were last seen at a bar popular with local gangsters. The following night, María de Jesús Marthen was more »

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