Everyday Victim Blaming

challenging institutional disbelief around domestic & sexual violence and abuse

male entitlement

Refusal to pay maintenance is a form of child abuse.

Today is Father’s Day. Whilst the media, and all high street shops, celebrate men, we’d like to raise the issue of financial abuse of children. We want to talk about all the children in the UK currently living in poverty because their fathers, and it is overwhelmingly men, refuse to pay child maintenance. A report more »

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The murder of Jo Cox

Jo Cox, the Laboour MP for Batley and Spen, is the 57th woman to be murdered in the UK in 2016 by a male perpetrator. Whilst the police have yet to confirm the name of the perpetrator, named as Thomas Mair by the media, or eyewitness accounts of Mair shouting ‘Britain First’, what we do know is more »

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The sentencing of Brock Turner is rape culture, but there is another issue at stake.

Brock Turner was “convicted of 3 felonies, including assault with intent to rape”. Despite the tariff for these felonies being a maximum of 14 years, Brock was only sentenced to 6 months in county jail and will be on the sexual offenders list for life. The judge Aaron Persky “said said positive character references and lack more »

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“What fathers think of their daughters boyfriends” meme is simply misogynistic

This video was sent to us by one of our supporters. Her comments are below the video. These types of memes are shared as ‘oh-so-hilarious’ jokes. But, there is nothing funny about men who make jokes about controlling their daughters by preventing them from entering consensual relationships. Men who raise their daughters in a house more »

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“Viewing illegal images does not cause harm or additional abuse” – Our response

This comment was submitted to our site. We frequently get submissions from men which are clear attempts to erase their responsibility for sexual violence and rape culture. This one is particularly stupid: It doesn’t make any sense to say that every time someone sees illegal images of sexual abuse of minors or adults that they more »

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“Why doesn’t she just leave?” 5 subtle ways women are blamed for experiencing domestic abuse

This article is cross-posted with permission from writer Woman as Subject. Having worked with survivors of domestic abuse for many years, I am still shocked at the way in which society continues to blame women for the violence and abuse they suffer at the hands of men. This tendency to minimise or justify male violence more »

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Man sentenced to jail on weekends for violent sexual assault

Mitchell Leeander Goodwin has been convicted of sexual assault* in Nova Scotia, Canada. The assault took place all night and Goodwin told the victim “you look like someone who just got raped”. Despite the fact that Goodwin committed rape and then taunted his victim, the prosecutor and the defence recommended that Goodwin serve only 90 days more »

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.@BBCSport confuses child sexual abuse with throwing a football game.

This is how @BBCSport chose to advertise their article on Adam Johnson’s conviction for child sexual offences.  Things which constitute a fail from grace in sports: taking illegal substances or throwing a game. Things which constitute criminal acts: the sexual abuse of a child. Things which are not the same: the sexual abuse of a more »

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Hypocrisy of media in dealing with child sexual abuse

This image speaks for itself:   Note: Why we do not use the term paedophile … It has become clear that the term ‘paedophile’ is now most commonly used to collectively describe child sexual abusers. It seems to refer to a type of abuser – usually one who is abusing children outside of the familial more »

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Just another example – in Australia – relating to revenge porn & classic victim blaming

A link to this article on a so-called “revenge porn” inquiry in Australia was submitted to our site. We don’t use the term “revenge porn” as it implies that people who release intimate images videos without consent are entitled to ‘revenge’. The release of these images is sexualised violence. There is NOTHING that a victim more »

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