Everyday Victim Blaming

challenging institutional disbelief around domestic & sexual violence and abuse


Being blamed for being assaulted

Since I was a child, I learned that sexual harassment is part of everyday life, and as a teenager, that it is my responsability to not to be sexually assaulted. Thanks to feminist websites, I began to learn to challenge that toxic believes, and I learned that the responsability to not to assault people lies more »

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In the News 14.5-20.5

What makes revenge porn such a sinister crime by @EvaWiseman It is a year since revenge porn became a crime. Last week a father was arrested after posting pictures of women online (including one who was pregnant, and doctored photos of a 15-year-old girl), commenting underneath one that he would “pay £100 to rape her”. Despite Women’s more »

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Yes, I’m angry, but that doesn’t make me illogical: On victim-blaming

(This piece was originally published at Reading Medieval Books) Today – when I should have been looking for a house to rent for my new job – I read an article in the Guardian by Rhiannon Lucy Cosslett on the subject of victim blaming. It was provocatively titled “Have accusations of rape victim blaming gone too far?”. As more »

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Magaluf Girl: Consent and Sexuality

Before starting, I think I should be transparent and say that I have my own issues with nightclubs and consent, you can read more here. Unless you live in one of those wonderful bubbles in which the popular “news” of the day passes you by, you will have probably seen the stories today circulating around more »

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Girls should “stay out of harm’s way”. Yeah, no.

A few days ago I stumbled on this piece from Mercatornet: “Why taekwondo won’t save girls from date rape”, with the subheading, “What they really need is to stay out of harm’s way.” Sadly, it is not unusual to see the burden placed on women to not get raped rather than on men to refrain more »


My letter to Leadership Journal, Christianity Today & #TakeThatPostDown:

On June 9th, Leadership Journal (part of Christianity Today) published a piece – several pages long – by a youth pastor convicted of sexual abuse of a child. I will not link to it: it is horrific in its justifications, appalling it it’s narrative. Needless to say one section of the internet at least has more »

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Unicorn hunting = assault? My boyfriend doesn’t think so.

Hi everyone. Background: my boyfriend and I have been together nearly a year and a half. We are both openly bisexual, and we were close friends for a good six months before we started dating. During that period of time we collected a group of mutual guy-friends, so about half the time I’m hanging out more »

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Upholding patriarchy? Why only some women?

Bbc Woman’s Hour have run a series on sex work this week. They hosted the arguments on Monday & Tuesday and you can listen here. I’m not sure where I stand on the criminalisation of the purchase of sex. I’m very conflicted, because I know women who say they choose to sell sexual services, and more »

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The Best Rape Prevention? Change the Behaviour of the Perpetrators, Not the Victims

On Wednesday, Slate Magazine’s Emily Yoffe caused outrage with an article about rape prevention on college campuses. Rife with victim-blaming, the article carried the aggressive tagline: “The Best Rape Prevention: Tell College Women to Stop Getting So Wasted”, and then proceeded to set the example by commanding, “College Women: Stop Getting Drunk”. To me, the more »

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