Everyday Victim Blaming

challenging institutional disbelief around domestic & sexual violence and abuse


Michael Beck: Why labelling men who kill as ‘non-violen’t is irresponsible journalism

Every single week, 2 men in England and Wales make a choice to kill their current or former partner. Despite the fact that these men consistently have a history of domestic violence, the media insists on reporting comments from random neighbours claiming that these men are ‘caring fathers’, ‘loving brothers’, ‘quiet neighbours’,  and, as above, ‘non more »

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The need for care when sharing images of missing children

Within hours of the bombing at the Ariana Grande concert in Manchester, people across social media were sharing images of those who were declared missing. Some of these were shared by family and friends who knew girls and women attending the concert, but who had not yet heard whether they were safe. These images were also being shared by more »

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A woman and 2 children are murdered. The media reports about John Lennon’s former flat.

Update: The victims have since been identified as Arena Saeed and her children Shadia Salem (6) and Rami Saeed, (4). A woman and 2 children have been murdered in what the police are once again calling “a domestic incident” – as though murder were nothing more than an argument about whose turn it was to wash more »

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The reality of male violence against women and girls. (Or, why the legal system is not fit for purpose)

5 cases from 5 jurisdictions demonstrating how unfit for purpose most legal jurisdictions are in dealing with male violence against women and girls. Mustafa Bashir  received a suspended sentence for domestic violence that included physical assaults with a cricket bat and forcing his wife to drink bleach because his wife was deemed ‘not vulnerable’ by more »

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Valid excuses for fatal male violence: love

Jay Nava, a soldier, was being investigated by the police for sexual assault. Natasha Wake had not known about the allegation (for which Nava was not charged) prior to the evening of her murder. The Telegraph coverage implies that the “bitter and acrimonious” argument that evening resulted in murder – as though being angry at more »

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The erasure of Claire and Charlotte Hart by the media

This letter was written by Paula Cleary in response to an article by journalist Amy Collett in the Fenland Citizen. Cleary originally posted this letter on her Facebook page and has asked for it be shared widely to honour the lives of Claire and Charlotte Hart who were murdered on the 19th of July in more »

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The context in which VAWG occurs

One of the most common refrains in the media when a man chooses to physically harm of kill is current or former partner is ‘it was an isolated incidents’. In the UK, we have 2 of these ‘isolated incidents’ a week – a statistic that does not include mothers, daughters, sisters, and grandmothers murdered by more »

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The murder of Jo Cox

Jo Cox, the Laboour MP for Batley and Spen, is the 57th woman to be murdered in the UK in 2016 by a male perpetrator. Whilst the police have yet to confirm the name of the perpetrator, named as Thomas Mair by the media, or eyewitness accounts of Mair shouting ‘Britain First’, what we do know is more »

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Press make it clear women remain possessions of men – even in death.

Helen Nicoll, 53, was found dead over the weekend from a gunshot. Police are investigating and have arrested a 53 year old man. At this moment, no further details have been released officially. The media, however, have felt it necessary to refer to Nicoll as the possession of her husband.: Independent: Wife of Harley Street more »

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