Everyday Victim Blaming

challenging institutional disbelief around domestic & sexual violence and abuse

domestic violence

In the News: domestic violence, rape culture and access to justice

This Missouri City Banishes Domestic Violence Survivors for Calling the Police by Sandra Park via @aclu In 2012, the city of Maplewood, Missouri ordered Rosetta Watson to vacate her home. But the city wasn’t done punishing Watson yet and also barred her from living anywhere in the city for six months. Her offense? She called more »

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In the News – domestic violence bill (Scotland), child benefit #rapeclause & tampon tax

Survivors of domestic abuse have helped to frame much-needed bill by Michael Matheson, Cabinet Secretary for Justice (Scotland) …. Creation of this new offence will bring clarity for victims so they can see explicitly that what their partner or ex-partner has done to them is wrong and perpetrators will see what they are doing is more »

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Valid excuses for fatal male violence: love

Jay Nava, a soldier, was being investigated by the police for sexual assault. Natasha Wake had not known about the allegation (for which Nava was not charged) prior to the evening of her murder. The Telegraph coverage implies that the “bitter and acrimonious” argument that evening resulted in murder – as though being angry at more »

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Mustafa Bashir given no jail time for forcing his wife to drink bleach.

UPDATE: Mustafa Bashir has now been sentenced to 18 months in jail for the crime of lying to the court about his cricket career using a “slip rule” which allows a judge to re-sentence a perpetrator if new information came to light. In this case. forcing a woman to drink bleach is less important than more »

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Tortured and silenced.

i am a victim of rape violence and murder. I have had no voice, almost all my life my mum married my dad when she was very young, beaten almost daily. My sister and I arrived and we witnessed terrible violence, we lived in a nice house, had nice clothes to the outside world we more »

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Marriage and abuse (content note)

I hope this helps someone else.. I married my best friend or so I thought.. My marriage was over ten years and things had radially. I was pregnant with my last child 27 weeks J. Just decided to go for coffee where the baristas dress in lingerie and young. It was fine. After grabbing coffee more »

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Edinburgh Evening News and the misuse of ‘dumped’

The erasure of perpetrator responsibility in domestic violence and abuse is standard across much of mainstream media. Very rarely do we see a headline that says “man sentenced to 6 years for assault”. Instead, we repeatedly see the words “jilted” and “spurned” used as though it were perfectly rational and reasonable to commit assault because more »

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Sex abuse

Hi i have the same situation from 15 years.my husband is taking drugs and drinking alcohol.i can never say to anybody.he is abusing me very much.i Have no any love for him.i tried many times to kill myself but i always stopped because of my kids.my son is only 5.he can’t survive without me.i hate more »

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His mother texted him saying “why did you get back together with her?”

I stumbled upon this site today while on google trying to find people who have dealt with what I’m dealing with. I’ve been with my emotionally abusive addict boyfriend for almost a year. Recently I broke up with him because I woke up to him saying he hates me and that I’m a piece of more »

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