Everyday Victim Blaming

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Domestic Abuse

In the News: rape culture, male violence and victim blaming

Why do some UN peacekeepers rape?, by Azad Essa UN peacekeepers are sent to the most war-ravaged countries on Earth, ostensibly to help them transition to peace. But some stand accused of committing crimes against the very people they are supposed to protect. According to a recent investigation by the Associated Press (AP), between 2004 more »

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Time to prioritise safety of mothers and children

DISCUSSIONS of child contact and court systems without mentioning domestic abuse are, I believe, akin to climate change policies that ignore human influence: ill-informed and reckless (“Parents deserve a court system that is fair but firm”, The Herald, August 28). The most recent figures suggest that domestic abuse is prevalent in at least half of more »

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Invisible perpetrators, blameable victims: why is gendered violence still reported this way?

A “spurned lover” who punched his ex-girlfriend, a murderer who had “a sexual interest” in his victim and a “Tinder stabber” have all made headlines in the past week. All those headlines, which are sadly a common response to men’s violence against women, are also a revolting misuse of the power of mainstream media. A more »

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Michael Beck: Why labelling men who kill as ‘non-violen’t is irresponsible journalism

Every single week, 2 men in England and Wales make a choice to kill their current or former partner. Despite the fact that these men consistently have a history of domestic violence, the media insists on reporting comments from random neighbours claiming that these men are ‘caring fathers’, ‘loving brothers’, ‘quiet neighbours’,  and, as above, ‘non more »

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Coercive control: How can you tell whether your partner is emotionally abusive?, by Radhika Sanghani

There is a growing awareness around the signs of coercive control – the emotional and psychological abuse of a partner, through threats and restrictions, as well as physical violence. This raised profile is thanks, in part, to last year’s storyline in The Archers – involving Helen Titchener and her emotionally abusive husband Rob. The BBC Radio 4 soap was following a new law on more »

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Blaming victims of male violence just reinforces the abuse, by @vonny_bravo

WHEN I think of how we respond to female victims, I think of the Victorians. Specifically of their approach to mourning, particularly in respect to women in the upper classes. When someone died – a parent, a husband a child – women partook in a complex set of rituals that dictated everything from their dress more »

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Rising violence against women gives voters stark choice, by Dawn Foster

Take Theresa May at her word: judge the Tory record on housing and cuts to domestic violence services that have left thousands of women more at risk  In 2008, a Conservative MP launched a policy called fair play on equal pay, claiming the party was willing to take action on the gender pay gap if more »

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In the news: male violence, family courts, and child sexual exploitation

Party leaders’ response to questions from women’s groups on ending abuse published from EVAW Judge vows to ban domestic abusers from cross-examining victims in his court by Owen Bowcott … Mr Justice Hayden pledged, in a judgment that described how a mother suffered at the hands of a violent husband who beat her and threatened to kill more »

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A woman and 2 children are murdered. The media reports about John Lennon’s former flat.

A woman and 2 children have been murdered in what the police are once again calling “a domestic incident” – as though murder were nothing more than an argument about whose turn it was to wash the dishes. The continuing inability of the police to be clear about the reality of male violence against women and more »

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In the news: Bresha Meadows, Poverty, and FGM

Bresha Meadows, teen who killed allegedly abusive dad, given second chance  via @blackvoices Bresha Meadows, a 15-year-old who fatally shot her father in his sleep last summer, pleaded true to a charge of involuntary manslaughter on Monday, ending a legal ordeal that began over nine months earlier. “This is a good child,” her attorney, Ian more »

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