Everyday Victim Blaming

challenging institutional disbelief around domestic & sexual violence and abuse


“Witch hunts”, howling mobs” and “Hitler’s dreams”: how a rational journalist reacts to police investigating historic child sexual abuse.

“If it wasn’t so horrific, all this would be entertaining.” Is one of the opening lines of Dan Hodges’ article in the Telegraph about the investigation into the police’s handling of child sexual abuse allegations made against Edward Heath. It transpires that the ‘horrific’ he refers to, is not child sexual abuse and the devastating more »

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Hit me more why don’t you

1985 Got Married to a Monster Became pregnant and wedding was arranged but the week before I lost the baby but the wedding had to go ahead He changed as soon as we were married he was out drinking and became agressive In the start I would go out with him but if any man more »

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Child Sexual Exploitation – Groundhog Day

Child Sexual Exploitation is in the news again – the media are over-run with commentators who are wringing their hands, apologising, claiming that they’re not sure how they didn’t know, telling us that work is in progress to ‘remove this vile scourge’ from our communities. But what are we actually doing? We’ve looked over a more »

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Ongoing victim of dv

I was with my perpertrator for around four years,as a couple. but for two more as friends. for my son. The violence was always my fault. especially when he was throwing an object. an inch away from my son. And when he tried to suffocate me. When i was keeping myself to myself. my mum more »

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Jennifer Lawrence was a victim of sexual violence; not “revenge porn”

Jennifer Lawrence, in an interview with Vanity Fair, has made the following statement: “It is not a scandal. It is a sex crime,” ….. “It is a sexual violation. It’s disgusting.” . An article in the Guardian includes the following quotes: “Just because I’m a public figure, just because I’m an actress, does not mean that I asked more »

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Yesterday at the Old Bailey Archie Reed of West Kensington was cleared of raping a fellow student.

Trials have outcomes. Juries make decisions. Judges oversee that process. This is British justice. Or is it? Because it is not good justice if some of the comments made during and after that trial do a deep damage to victims of the past, present and really importantly, of the future. When those comments are made more »

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Help me to #BanRevengePorn

Next Monday, two amendments to criminalise revenge porn will go to the committee stage in the House of Lords. For those who don’t know, revenge porn is non-consensual pornography. It’s where a person uploads an explicit image of somebody without their permission. Often the victim’s name and contact details are attached. Not only is it more »

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In case you haven’t heard, our national treasure, Stephen Fry, reportedly waded into the murky topic of Operation Yewtree and historical sex crimes whilst speaking at a Labour Party dinner. He allegedly ‘went off on one’* and thinks there should be tougher laws to discourage people from inventing false claims of rape and sexual assault. more »

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Reporting Rape to the Police

I am not sure why I placed such faith in the police to prosecute my ex-partner for sexual violence. I don’t know why I thought I would be different and they would help me when I reported historic rape. The actual rapes and sexual abuse may be historic in the sense that they happened approximately more »

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Barriers to Reporting Rape.

Unfortunately my 15 year old daughter has experienced the ‘Barriers to Reporting’ and all I can say is thank god for the charity Rape Crisis! Getting help for my daughter to help cope after she was raped was an unnecessary fight – due to her age there was no domestic violence support available even though more »

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