Everyday Victim Blaming

challenging institutional disbelief around domestic & sexual violence and abuse

Counting Dead Women

When a Man Kills a Woman by @K_IngalaSmith at openDemocracy

Across everything that divides societies, we share in common that men’s violence against women is normalised, tolerated, justified – and hidden in plain sight. … Men’s fatal violence against women in the UK crosses boundaries of class, race, nationality and age.  Over the last year, the oldest woman killed was 85, 18 were over 60, more »

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The reporting of India Chipchase’s murder shows the true extent of Britain’s rape culture by @sarahditum

What did the media see in her that made her the perfect victim? The grotesque answer is, the same things as the man who murdered her did. Why India Chipchase? For the Sun, it must have been the booze: “Woman ‘drank six Jagerbombs in ten minutes on the night she was raped and murdered” went the more »

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The context in which VAWG occurs

One of the most common refrains in the media when a man chooses to physically harm of kill is current or former partner is ‘it was an isolated incidents’. In the UK, we have 2 of these ‘isolated incidents’ a week – a statistic that does not include mothers, daughters, sisters, and grandmothers murdered by more »

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A ‘light-hearted look at who killed Lucy Beale’

BBC article: EastEnders: Lucy Beale’s killer – the likely suspects Having read the Counting Dead women project  I have come to understand that behind the statistics on the murders of women are the murdered women themselves. The women living their lives, striving for survival and happiness having their lives stolen by violent men. Karen Ingala more »

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The Art of Discussing Dead Women

Popular folklore has it, that Eskimos have a hundred words for snow, and the Sami speakers of Norway have over a thousand words for, ‘reindeer.* Snow and reindeer play central roles in their culture so we are very ready to believe this. As it turns out, the Inuits actually make artful use of suffixes attached more »

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Why doesn’t she just leave?

Imagine if instead of saying “why doesn’t she leave him?” we said “why doesn’t he leave her?” Imagine if we thought that men who control, threaten and manipulate women are responsible for their actions and that they should be the ones to leave. Imagine if wondering why she puts up with it, we wonder why he does it in the first place. Imagine if, more »

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Men’s violence against women & obfuscation by the media

Recently an article was published on the BBC news website called Domestic Violence: One month’s death toll by Alex Morrison. It used the recent conviction of David Gikawa, who murdered Linah Keza last year, to ask how commonplace such crimes actually are. So far, so good. Domestic violence is a huge issue and it is more »

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