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In the News: rape culture, male violence and financial child abuse

What happens at a forensic medical examination following a rape or sexual assault via Edinburgh Rape Crisis Nobody wants to have a rape exam. No one. That is a realistic place to start. This is not going to be great – but it does not have to make your trauma worse.  I am a senior more »

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Should domestic abuse have its own law? by @sianushka

In the UK, there is no specific offence for ‘domestic violence’. Is the law failing women seeking justice? “When the police told me they wouldn’t charge my ex, I felt like there was no justice for women,” Naomi* explains. Like most survivors of domestic abuse, 31-year-old Naomi didn’t go to the police the first time more »

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A man who didn’t talk to his wife would not be funny. He would be an abuser by Lola Okolosie

Since in 2016 turning on the news invariably resulted in a rush of negativity, it’s fair to say that by 31 December we were all fed up with the prevailing sense of doom. This perhaps explains why a story – the authenticity of which has been questioned – about a Japanese husband who didn’t speak more »

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this is what domestic violence is all about

tonight I saw two documentaries on domestic violence and it saddens me and it made my emotions escape and the pain that I carry deeply in my heart. Emotions feelings that are hidden buried deeply are then pathologiesed by the professionals as not emotionally regulated person when in fact I ve been trying hard to more »

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In the news (14.11)

10 tips for preventing violence against women in the workplace by @ZTScotland With 1 in 3 women experiencing violence at some point in their lives, the likelihood of staff experiencing abuse or harassment is high, be that at home, at work, or of an everyday nature such as “banter”. These can have negative impacts on more »

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Equal rights, different needs by Polly Neate

Yes, men need support for domestic abuse. No, domestic abuse is not gender-neutral. Our Chief Executive Polly Neate blogs on why we can’t treat men and women the same when it comes to domestic abuse We need to encourage all victims of domestic abuse to come forward, writes Michael Malone for the Telegraph. Yes, indeed. Until more »

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In the news: coercive control and rape culture

Stanford Sexual Assault Case Survivor Emily Doe Speaks Out via @glamourmag  … From the beginning, I was told I was a best case scenario. I had forensic evidence, sober un­biased witnesses, a slurred voice mail, police at the scene. I had everything, and I was still told it was not a slam dunk. I thought, more »

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The murders of Clodagh Hawe and Megan Short.

There was a tremendous amount of outrage about the appalling media coverage of the murder of Clodagh Hawe and her three sons in September. Unfortunately, this level of grossly inappropriate and inaccurate representation of family annihilators is not an aberration. Mark Short Sr. murdered his wife Megan and their children — 8-year-old Lianna, 5-year-old Mark Jr., and 2-year-old Willow. He also killed the more »

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In the news (2.10.16) – on rape culture, domestic violence and male perpetrators

A high school student accused a classmate of sexual assault. Her school suspended her:  via @slate Peachtree Ridge High School is a low-slung concrete building in Suwanee, Georgia, an affluent suburb north of Atlanta. School had just gotten out on Feb. 4, 2015, and a 16-year-old sophomore was waiting just inside the main entrance for more »

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REST IN PEACE, INVISIBLE WOMAN by LINNEA DUNNE

Five people die in Cavan, and in the days to come, Irish newspapers are full of questions. “Why did he do it?” asks one national daily, picturing a man and his three sons. “How could he kill those poor boys?” asks another. It is almost immediately clear that the father, Mr Hawe, has stabbed the more »

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