wrongly blamed from social workers with little knowledge on the signs of emotional and psychological abuse
Being a victim of domestic abuse is one thing but when I requested supported for my child I was told they would make a referral. I asked for two years for the referral whilst suffering emotional and psychological abuse from my ex partner. Not only as a women are you expected to continue to safeguard and provide for your children you are expected to continue with your life. However as a social work student I had to suspend my studies and took time off sick which I had never done in 20 years of working in the social care sector.
When the manipulation and vindictive behaviour from the ex continued yo the extent he made an allegation to children's services about my current partner they then decided to act despite.ignoring my pleas for support cos of his emotional abuse continuously for the previous two years.
This is where the blame began. Without any evidence they had me at a.child protection conference alleging that I have no parenting ability due to being an abused child and having been in care. I was mortified. Twenty years working with homeless families, victims of dv,children in care, a clean medical and mental health record but cos they can't see emotional and psychological abuse and many social workers work from evidence they BLAMED ME although I am unsure what for.... Initially they said neglect however.there is no evidence. The new social worker then saw my ex partner behaviour and my child reported his abusive and aggressive behaviour which was displayed in core group..... The conference then changed to emotional abuse from him....Unable to get legal aid I paid for a consultation with a solicitor and was advised to stop contact with my child and her father. I acted upon the advice and then the BLAME game reappeared and they blamed me for emotional abuse for not allowing my child contact with her father (although I believe this is private law). It is shocking that I not only had a label for my childhood which wasn't my fault, I escaped the abuse and also labeled for being in care, I became a victim of dv and when u feel ur free I become a victim.of children's services...... Blame is a big culture in children's services and whilst I rebuilt my life from the hands of others and never had any concerns with any of my children I have now lost my career and nearly lost my youngest child which they placed with her father til I proved he was aggressive. Where is empowerment and strength based approaches in the world of social work????
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