Walk in the woods
It was 9 pm and my boyfriend and I were walking around town. I live in a very very small town where everybody knows everybody, so late night walks never deemed as dangerous to either of us. We are walking down the road as we pass a paved trail through a small section of woods. I asked my boyfriend if we can go in and walk. He says no and I ask why. He didn't say anything and kept walking. I, however, decided I could be independent for just a few minutes. I entered the woods on the paved trail. Half way through a man was following me and eventually he grabbed me and raped me. After I exit the paved trails I'm hysterical and my boyfriend takes me to the police station. A few days later we get in an argument and my boyfriend starts putting all the blame on me. He kept saying how dumb I was to walk in alone and that I was asking for it. He told me that I wanted it because I chose to walk in there. It absolutely broke my heart because he was my only person I could confide in about the rape. He continued naming every mistake I made that night and that I was setting myself up to be raped. He then accused me of wanting somebody who could perform better sexually so I walked in to do so. I am so saddened because I love my boyfriend, but he thinks I wanted all of this to happen. He says I asked for it. I don't know how to talk to him right now and I'm in so much emotional pain.
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