Sexual assault survivor who was victim blamed by a close friend. Need some advice please/
I'm a sexual assault survivor. I won't go into details. But you'll all be glad to know that I'm on the mend and have made use of the local rape crisis centre. They were all so lovely and understanding.
Finally what brings me here is that a 'close friend' victim blamed me by asking "Did you lead him on?" countless times. Countless times I answered that bloomin question by saying no and that it didn't matter. He was the one at fault 100%. Not only did this 'friend' ask that but they also tried to sympathise with the perpetrator. Saying that I'd be ruining his life by taking him to court! Is that out of order or what?
I just wish I had more courage back then when she said it to say "please leave my house, I don't appreciate it when you come into my home and ridicule me for opening up to you".
So now I have a problem on my hands by still having her around ridiculing everything. Every time I try to bring it up she plays the victim. I need help on how to break off this toxic 'friend'ship.
Please and thank you.
My heart goes out all the survivors on here and pray that you don't have to go through this and any more torment. Just remember that you, yes you are a badass!
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