Everyday Victim Blaming

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No support for victims

I have just taken a relative to court for abusing me as a child. I found out today that he was found not guilty. The defence barrister was brutal when questioning me, to the point the judge had to step in. I was called a liar and my mothers recent death used as part of the defence. I cannot put into words how devastated I am he was able to walk away as if what he did to me didn't matter. I honestly thought justice would prevail, how naive of me.


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3 thoughts on “No support for victims

  • MJ says:

    Unfortunately – more people do not get justice than get it. It’s hard to move on without it.

  • Sammi says:

    I’m so sorry to hear this. It’s an appalling experience and outcome. I can only imagine how you must be feeling. Please know many people are fighting to change this unacceptable treatment of victims and the frequent lack of responsibility for perpetrators. Unfortunately, it is not yet soon enough for many victims including yourself. As a society we can’t let this continue. Sending much love to you at this awful time.

    If you haven’t already done so, please do contact the following organisations as they may be able to help in some way:





  • Tamsin says:

    I’m really sorry this happened to you and that the legal system has let you down so badly