My partner was raped and I think he needs help!
I just knew that my gay boyfriend was raped a week ago.
He have been trying to act normally with me for the last week but refused to see me.
We finally met today and he was hesitant about telling me but he finally decided to tell me because he feels like he can't love or care for anyone anymore, including me. He told me that everything around him seems distant and that he can't feel anything at all.
He hardly told me any details about the rape saying that he doesn't want to talk about it. he only said it was a relative who once had tried to sexually harass him when he was young. he also said it happened at his house and the rapist broke in because he knew he was there alone.
He said he went to a therapist seeking help and told him about everything as he read a little about rape trauma syndrome. but, the therapist bullied him for being gay as our community doesn't really accept it. he didn't tell anyone except me and the therapist, even his parents because they don't even know he's gay and he's afraid of coming out or talking about the rape.
He asked me to be best friends. He is feeling horrible about this because he is afraid he won't feel anything or love me again and he doesn't want our relationship to end and he also knows that I love him so much.
I accepted his request because I know he can't help it and assured him that it's not his fault at all and that I'm going to stand next to him waiting for him to love me back again even if this takes forever. I also told him that I'm ready to listen to him whenever he needs to talk and that I'll always be there caring about him. And I made sure he doesn't have any thoughts or suicide or hurting himself.
I feel devastated because of what happened to him and I'm horrified of the idea that he may not be able to love me again because I love him so deeply and we had just got through some problems together wanting everything to be great again and it feels like everything suddenly crashed and broke. but despite those feelings, I never said this to him because I know he needs me to be strong for him right now and knowing about such feelings would only make him feel worse.
I really need to know if I'm dealing with this right or wrong and how can I help him and us get over this and relieve his pain.
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