Everyday Victim Blaming

challenging institutional disbelief around domestic & sexual violence and abuse

my mother

I was raped by 6 men on a train on a long distance journey between scotland and england in 1980. I finally - through the help of one of my sisters - told my parents after 3 days. My mother said 'well you were wearing a skirt with a split in it....'!! No support whatsoever from my mother. Fiance's boyfriend said he didn't believe me as I 'wasn't acting like a real rape victim'...this model was based on a friend of his who, when she was 14 was raped. Been involved in rape research as a result... it's the only crime where the victim has to prove consent was not given. Disgusting.



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  • Admin says:

    We are sorry that you didn’t get the suppport you needed from your mother.
    There is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ way for a rape survivor to behave, and the clothing they wear is in no way responsible for the rape.
    We believe you.

  • julie says:

    thank you