Date rape is rape
When I told friends that I thought I was raped I was blamed because I dated the guy, was half naked before he raped me and apparently I should just expect that if I get naked with a man he will expect sex. My mother said that if a stranger had forced themselves on me it would have been rape but because he wasn't a stranger it wasn't rape.
My therapist told me that if you get naked with a man you should expect him to expect sex from you and that it wasn't trauma because I liked the man and my body got physical pleasure from it.
Some people didn't believe me because I was confused about whether I had been raped because I had been sexually assaulted many times before and had a warped view of consent.
Ultimately, the man himself admitted he had done something wrong by saying "I'm scared I forced myself on you", and that he was scared he raped me before I corrected him that he had raped me.
I am 20 years old and I was raped on the 22nd of May 2015. I was also victim blamed by almost everyone who spoke to me or people downplayed things and told me to still try and work on improving trust with this man. This is unjust, wrong and unacceptable.
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