if it wasnt rape, what was it?
a few weeks ago i went to a guys flat and i had planned to have sex with him.
we were kissing and doing some other foreplay things and it was all going good, but then things changed. he got more aggressive and violent in ways that scared me and eventually started having sex with me without a condom (which is something i would never do, safe sex is very important to me).
i've been having trouble trying to figure out what happened to me.
i went over to his place with the purpose of having sex with him. neither of us were drunk and i knew what was happening the whole time. and even when things took a turn i never said no. by the time he started having sex with me i was tired and my body hurt and i just wanted it to be over, so i did things he asked me to do and minimally engaged.
but by the time he started having sex with me i did not want it to happen. and i definitely did not want to have unprotected sex. i also left with bruises and bleeding from my vagina.
some parts of me blame myself for going over there, but i know that what happened was probably wrong. but i don't know if it was rape. i wanted to have sex with him and i never said no. so if it wasn't rape what was it?
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