i was raped and my boyfriend blames me
Me and my former friend have been friends for about five years when this happened at the end of last year. We were really close friends actually, we had two other mutual female friends (whom introduced me to him) we always hung out with. He was one of the sweetest guys i thought. WE WERE ALWAYS STRICTLY FRIENDS!! I never gave him any reason to assume we would be more or that i was ever even interested in him like that! I met his girlfriend that he been with for years and she is an absolute sweetie. ..,
There would be times when it was me and one of the girls or both the girls or only me and him.. Usually when we would go out for drinks we usually crashed at whoever house was nearest.
One day I'm on the phone with one of our mutual friends and i tell her that he had gotten me concert tickets to see my favorite singer. I said 'yea he just gave me two tickets out the blue idk why' she says 'oh you know why..' Then we get to talking and she tells me it's bc i had sex with him. I instantly got angry and said i hadn't and got off the phone with her to confront him. I call him fifty times and he texts me that he's at work so i text him back asking why he's telling our friends that I had sex with him. He responds 'you might not remember but we did..' Followed by a huge paragraph that I didn't want to read. I got sick and hysterical never even responding to his text. This happened at the end of 2014 I changed my number and haven't spoken to him since..
Me and my boyfriend were laying around a couple days ago and he's talking about how I don't drink anymore and I told him I never will. He asks why and when i said i really didn't want to talk about it he got offended and accused me of cheating in so many words even though he knows i would never.. After basically bullying me into telling him by moving my head off his lap and telling me he's about to get pissed off, I told him. At first he was hurt for me. That didn't last long. He became mad that I didn't tell him then so he could fight for me. That didn't last long either,, he started telling me this is why i shouldn't be alone or drinking with guy friends period. Why I shouldn't trust anyone. he then asked me if i was telling him the truth. I asked him if he was serious he said yea cause he feel like I'm lying...
He was the first person I confided in because in actuality I did feel like it was my fault for letting myself get intoxicated to the point where i couldn't defend myself or be coherent to stop this from happening. I feel so dirty and violated and so freaking disgusted. I'm hurt that he would even accuse me of lying about something so serious. I'm hurt because he didn't give me one hug or one I'm here for you. He blamed me for something I had no control over. I feel stupid for telling him