Do we create our own reality? Really?
A woman is walking down the street and she is raped. Somebody told me that she created her own reality. According to that person,she attracted that type of man because she had a victim mentality,so men could see from a distance that she was an easy prey. To me personally, this statement seems very wrong, like saying that any type of abuse is the victim's fault. My intuition tells it's a toxic way of thinking. But,having been abused myself (although not sexually,but verbally and emotionally), i don't know what's right and what's wrong anymore. 33 years of abuse left me confused. Am i misinterpreting that person's opinion about reality being created by us? If that were the case, then there would be no more abusers in the world. So,is it victim blaming or not?
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