Blamed in online forum
I recently came forward about my experience with sexual harassment, among other things, in an online forum.
All the commenters were male and they blamed it all in me by saying I was too sensitive, it's probably all my imagination, I should give people 2nd chances, ect.
One person even said I a manipulator by being a victim, and also that I'm an oppressor not the oppressed.
Another person purposely misquoted me in the forum by deleting things that I wrote and tried to make it look like I said something I didn't say because they wanted to make me look bad.
I thought coming forward anonymously online would be a safe thing to do but I guess not.
I've tried to come forward in real life too and Ive been met with the same reactions.
No wonder so many women are silent about their pain.
I think the worst thing is for someone is to not be able to trust their own thoughts.
How dare someone tell you that you're too sensitive or that it's just your imagination when they haven't even been through what you've been through.
I've been called crazy simply for standing up for myself. I think abusive personalities love to make the other person feel like they're the problem, because the abuser is too much of a coward to apologize and own up to what they did.
I think a lot of people are uncomfortable with the idea that there are evil people in the world, so instead of accepting that and believing the victim they want to make the victim feel like they're paranoid.
All the women who tell their story can't all be crazy. There is a real problem going on here.
Don't be silent about your pain, speak up about your experiences because it may help someone else come forward.
Don't let people who haven't felt your pain try to tell you how you really feel.
The way you feel is there for a reason, trust your gut. If something feels wrong then it is.
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