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It’s not sexist to suggest domestic violence perpetrators are usually men by Natalie Bloomer

You might think any discussion on domestic violence this week would centre on the new legislation on coercive and controlling behaviour. The new powers mean those accused of subjecting family members or partners to psychological and emotional torment - an often ignored aspect of abuse against women - could face up to 5 years in prison. Of course, what actually happened though, was that the conversation shifted towards alleged sexism against men.

A poster campaign by Northumbria Police which referred to perpetrators of domestic violence as 'he' has been slammed as sexist on social media over the last few days. The campaign group New Fathers 4 Justice piped up to accuse the police of "disgracefully using out of date gender stereotypes" and "living in the dark ages [while] turning a blind eye to modern life".

But it's not a gender stereotype to describe most abusers as men: it's a fact. All the research and statistics tell us this. And for many of us, our own life experiences will prove it. But, for the avoidance of doubt, let's reiterate some of the facts:


Read more here at Politics.co.uk


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  • Hecuba says:

    Men never want to be held accountable for enacting their choice and agency to subject women and girls to male violence in all its forms. Men have always declared the fact their sex is male means we must not name men as men but instead refer to them as ‘people.’

    Men constantly insult us women by hurling sexualised insults at us and claiming all women are vengeful (insert male sexualised insult) and I do not see or read men ‘piping up’ and claiming ‘wah you boys can’t say that because not all women are like that or even ‘women aren’t like that.’

    So reason why the men are getting their ‘knickers in a twist’ is because they believe naming them as a sex is taboo! Factual evidence proves otherwise – it is 99.9% males who are the perpetrators of violence against women and girls.