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‘It has gone on too long’: Rebecca Poulson on family violence that destroyed her family

THE day before my one-year-old nephew Bas was stabbed to death I had gone with him, my sister and my niece Malee to the teddy bears’ picnic.

I smiled at Bas who was at my feet wobbling around on his little legs. His nappy-padded bottom jiggled in rhythm with Bob the Builder.

I had breathed a sigh of relief that he was staying in one spot for more than 60 seconds. Suddenly, he had caught sight of his hero as the sea of children parted and his shoeless feet took off.

By the time I had arrived at the six foot high security fence built to keep all those overexcited children away from their favourite characters, Bas was on the other side. Somehow, Bas was always on the other side of whatever was meant to keep children out. He was a trailblazer, a pint-sized Houdini. There was no opening. How had he done it?

Bas danced sturdily and confidently, a large dance floor all to himself. He looked very, very, very pleased. Suddenly, a security guard had swooped down.

“Who does this one belong to then?” he boomed out in a friendly manner. ...


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One thought on “‘It has gone on too long’: Rebecca Poulson on family violence that destroyed her family

  • Hecuba says:

    ‘Family violence’ is a male created euphemism whereby the male perpetrators as usual are the invisible male presence. ‘Family violence’ wasn’t the perpetrator – a male who was also a father was the murderer and he stated only reason he murdered his ‘private property’ was because he wanted his female sexual property – aka mother of child to suffer.

    Male violence against women and children is pandemic and constantly claiming it is ‘family violence’ ensures men continue not to be named and held accountable for their male choices and their male agency to commit violence against females of all ages and sometimes boy children too!