Local man defends David Ruffley MP – with more victim blaming
On the Jeremy Vine show, Mr Bernard Sergeant, local resident and Conservative party member , defended his MP David Ruffley with the following words:
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All this happened behind closed doors.
This wasn't a "thing" that just "happened". David Ruffley assaulted his ex-partner. He did this "thing".
People do many things behind closed doors, including fraud, theft, assault and murder. It doesn't make those things more or less reprehensible. It doesn't make them more or less of public interest.
It was a private matter, and as in most domestic issues, I suggest it was six of one and half-a-dozen of the other.
Mr Sergeant, like so many people, urgently needs educating about domestic abuse. Not domestic "issues", Mr Sergeant. This is not an "issue" any more than it is a "thing" that "happened".
Domestic abuse is not "six of one and half-a-dozen of the other" That is abuse apologia, where abusers claim that they were provoked, that their victim deserved it, that it isn't really abuse and that the abuser was somehow justified in their actions. It is false. The only person to blame is the perpetrator and there is no justification.
Nobody really knows what went on.
Given that nobody really knows what went on, Mr Sergeant seems remarkably certain, just like Andrew Speed, chairman of the Bury St Edmunds Conservative Association, in his email , that he does indeed know what went on. And that, in his view, we should all just stop making such a big deal about it because when Jeremy Vine asked
How can you have as a candidate a man who beats up his girlfriend?
Mr Sergeant's response was
Well, why not?
Mr Sergeant may be happy to have such a man represent him. Such a man does not, however, and never could, represent me.