I’m stunned by what I’ve found here
I wanted to understand this subject. To get firsthand information. So I came here and read through the twelve most recent submissions. All of them, start to finish.
I saw almost no examples of victim-blaming in any of them. This is not me denying that the examples given were victim-blaming; I'm saying that most of them gave no examples of anything I could even vaguely describe as that.
Some were stories of sexual violence, but with no actual blaming of the victim that I could discern. One was a woman who chose to cheat on her husband rather than leave him, and how she doesn't want to feel bad about that. One was a story of an online argument with someone who was debating whether victims share any blame. One was a rant against people not using 'correct' language to describe rape.
One story did mention someone ignorantly asking what a rape victim had been wearing and insisting she must have been giving off signals. I'll completely grant that. That's unacceptable. Yet in this same story, the male narrator mentions a woman grabbing his crotch without his consent and threatening to cut his balls off. And in no way does he indicate this was sexual assault. He seems not to even consider it. I don't know what to make of that.
I'm not saying I deny that victim-blaming exists. Not at all. In fact, I have no idea what to feel now. I wanted to see and understand victim-blaming and instead I saw almost none. I don't know what to feel about that.Download this post as PDF? Click here