Everyday Victim Blaming

challenging institutional disbelief around domestic & sexual violence and abuse

In the New 28.5 -4.6

A Woman's Story: My Personal Experience of Going Through the Policing and Judicial System After Being Raped by anonymous.

The purpose of this case study is to present the reader with an insight into and understanding of a journey, outwith my control, which began on the night I was raped. Please always keep at the front of your mind that it was me, one person, going through every stage of this uninvited, distressing process. ...

Amber Heard, and the grotesque disparity in how men and women are treated in cases of domestic violence by Sali Hughes

Imagine you’re in a pub, having a quiet drink, and a woman walks in with bruises down her face, and says, “Can you please keep my husband away from me? He did this.” You’d believe her, right? Sit her down, order her a brandy, call the police and give her your coat to keep her from shivering? It wouldn’t occur to you to wonder if she was the kind of person who’d make up a monstrous lie. And even if it did, would you ever apply that same suspicion to a victim of burglary, armed robbery or mugging? I’m guessing no.

Pity that the same sense of common courtesy is not being extended to actress Amber Heard, a woman we’ll never meet who saw her allegations of domestic violence at the hands of husband Johnny Depp leaked from the legitimate legal process she was following (during which, she presented formal evidence and was granted a restraining order by a court of law), then plonked on every front page and social-media platform for the public to dissect, challenge and find her lacking in either morality or credibility.  ...

As the Johnny Depp domestic abuse claims reveal, we are too quick to make excuses for men we admire by @sarahditum

Maybe he didn’t do it. Maybe that man you care about didn’t do that awful thing to the woman you don’t care about very much. Maybe this time, of all the times, is Gone Girl in real life and that man you like – the sports star one, or the actor one, or the musician one, I’m not going to specify – really is the victim of a vicious feminine plot to destroy him. After all, you’d know the real thing if you saw it, wouldn’t you? You’re no rape apologist. You’d never harbour liking or admiration for a man who was abusive or violent to women. We all know that this is at the core of your moral thinking, because you’ve been extremely careful to say so, explicitly, before declaring that this time – this one time – is different.

Well, maybe he didn’t do it. We know that 1.4m women in England and Wales experience domestic violence. We know that one in five women has been the victim of a sexual offence since she turned 16. We know that the volume of violence against women is under-represented in statistics. None of that means that this one man – sports star, actor, musician – did what he has been accused of. Perhaps you have excellent and compelling reasons to believe in his innocence. But, just so we’re completely clear: the fact that you like him is not an excellent and compelling reason to believe in his innocence. ...

Predatory Peacekeepers – UN Soldiers Are Committing Widespread Child Rape by @ClairesShrugged

UN Peacekeepers have been raping children in the Central African Republic.

MINUSCA, the mission resulting in nearly a hundred allegations of child sexual abuse, gave soldiers the mandate “to protect civilians and support transition processes” following the devastation of war.

Instead, numerous Blue Helmets have used their position as an opportunity to engage in acts of rape and paedophilia. This abuse of power is no secret: it first emerged over a year ago. In fact, it is so widespread that the United Nations was subject to an independent report “on the Sexual Exploitation and Abuse by International Peace Keeping Forces.”

In exchange for the assistance they were deployed in order to provide, in exchange for basic necessities such as food and water, UN soldiers have been sexually exploiting children.  ....

Amber Heard and the 'perfect victim' myth that prevents women speaking up by @sianushka

Unless you've been living under a rock for the last week, you'll have probably heard the news that actor Amber Heard has accused her former husband Johnny Depp of domestic abuse. Since making the allegations, she provided photographic evidence of bruises, and a witness claims to have seen Depp acting violently. A judge has grantedher a restraining order against Depp.

In the days since the allegations first broke, the usual narrative has emerged that an alleged victim of domestic abuse should be treated with suspicion and disbelief.

It’s not for me to comment on the guilt or innocence of either party - that is for legal due process and the courts. However, I can comment on the double-standard that exists in the public and media response to Heard and Depp, and what this tells us about our continuing, shameful attitude towards domestic abuse.  ....

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