Everyday Victim Blaming

challenging institutional disbelief around domestic & sexual violence and abuse

October, 2016

i am so tempted to blame my girlfriend, but i know very well it is wrong

i do post comments on this forum with another pseudonymn, and i am 100% against victim blaming. however i find myself torn between radical honesty (which has always been my hallmark) and sheer hypocricy (if i go against what i have always required from others). i have a special kind of job (military) that keeps more »

The murders of Clodagh Hawe and Megan Short.

There was a tremendous amount of outrage about the appalling media coverage of the murder of Clodagh Hawe and her three sons in September. Unfortunately, this level of grossly inappropriate and inaccurate representation of family annihilators is not an aberration. Mark Short Sr. murdered his wife Megan and their children — 8-year-old Lianna, 5-year-old Mark Jr., and 2-year-old Willow. He also killed the more »

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The @BBC remain incapable of correctly identifying child rape.

This is the brief complaint we have submitted to the BBC over an article entitled: “Outrage over 60-day jail term for sex with young daughter”. The BBC limits the number of characters that can be used in a complaint.   The title of your article is “Outrage over 60-day jail term for sex with young daughter”. more »

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Trauma theories make oppressed people sick

Most people on this earth are traumatised: being untraumatized is a rare privilege. Most people live in an unsafe world where they struggle to survive. There are 7 billion people in the world, only around 1 billion have day-to-day lives where they are mostly not subjected to violence, war, hunger, state abuses, patriarchal abuses and more »

Toxic masculinity and rape culture (content note for rape)

(republished with permission from Shhh… verboten)   I am a writer and a mother of two girl children. I am also a dancer and currently working on an idea for a performance art piece around rape culture, objectification of women and the ways in which patriarchy slaps unhealthy values and norms upon ‘femininity’ and female more »

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