Everyday Victim Blaming

challenging institutional disbelief around domestic & sexual violence and abuse

August, 2016

I cant tell my boyfriend that my friend assaulted me (content note)

I had planned a holiday to see a an online friend and meet in person, he knew i had a boyfriend and i had asked my boyfriends permission to visit my friend. When i got there everything was fine, my friend was great and friendly. My first night there we had drinks and my friend more »

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It’s not victim blaming, it’s woman blaming by Sonia Orchard

Can we please stop this talk of victim-blaming? We don’t have a problem with victim-blaming in our society. We have a problem with woman-blaming. Teenage victims of the recent Australian school porn ring have reportedly been told that they brought the problem upon themselves by sharing nude images. Girls at one school have even been more »

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In the News (29.8) – on rape culture and Brock Turner

Judge in Stanford sexual assault trial removes himself from all criminal cases The embattled judge in the Stanford sexual assault trial is removing himself from all criminal cases, marking a victory for opponents who have called for him to be ousted after he gave a controversially light sentence to former student Brock Turner. Aaron Persky, who more »

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Housing associations should fight harder to end the abuse of women by Aisha Sharif

When I worked for Women’s Aid I met a mother who had escaped war in Sudan. She’d seen people killed and she had been raped. She came to the UK for safety – only to be forced to flee her home with her two children when her husband became abusive. The housing association said they more »

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The case of Nate Parker: on rape culture in Hollywood

Nate Parker is an American actor, director, producer, and writer. His new film The Birth of a Nation premiered at Sundance Film Festival in January. Within days of the film festival, news of Parker’s involvement in a multiple perpetrator rape whilst attending Penn State, in which he was found not guilty, began to make the rounds of social more »

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The myths our legal system buys into about perpetrators of domestic violence by Kasey Edwards

One of the most persistent and dangerous myths of domestic violence is that the perpetrators are good men who made ONE bad choice because their wife pushed them too far. It’s a neat little way of excusing male violence and rather unsubtly hinting that the female victims were the problem all along. A recent study more »

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In the News (15.8-22.8)

“A Honeypot For Assholes”: Inside Twitter’s 10-Year Failure To Stop Harassment via @cwarzel On May 22, 2008, Ariel Waldman ran out of options. Waldman, then a community manager and blogger, had signed up for Twitter in March 2007 and in months had become one of the platform’s 100 most followed accounts. She was, by her own more »

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No, women aren’t as likely to commit violence as men by Jane Gilmore

  Pick any article on the internet about the violence men commit against women and you can pretty much guarantee that at least one of the first five comments under it will be from a man furious that feminists are ignoring the unreported epidemic of women’s violence against men. Most of the time it’s quite more »

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Let down by the system

I was raped 9 years ago at a party. I had been fine drinking at bars with my friends, then one suggested a party at someone she vaguely knew house. When I got there I had probably half a drink and felt terrible. I was apparently out in a bedroom because I had passed out, more »

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