Everyday Victim Blaming

challenging institutional disbelief around domestic & sexual violence and abuse

April, 2016

It’s been 10 years and it still haunts me (content note for rape)

I was 18 or 19 when it happened. I had been with my (then) boyfriend for 2 years already when he wanted to try anal. I hesitated, because I wasn’t too intrigued by the idea, but I agreed nonetheless. I was in so much pain and discomfort that I asked him to stop multiple times. more »

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In the News: April 15-21

Women given tents instead of accommodation when leaving London prison, inspection reveals by Rachael Pells The revelation that women leaving a west London prison were given tents instead of housing has been described as “staggering” by Government ministers and raised alarm among housing charity groups. A prison watchdog revealed sleeping bags had also been handed out to a number of more »

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my life with my rapist and the pain its caused me

Tonight I feel so sad my emotions have not been all over the place just very sad it started when I woke up and all I felt was so sad. I have been in pain all day from my head neck right down to my lower part of my spine. My tears falling down my more »

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Football doesn’t cause domestic abuse, men do by @SWACEO

At Scottish Women’s Aid (SWA), we have long been aware of the rise in police-recorded domestic abuse around Old Firm games, and we welcome Police Scotland’s commitment to proactive policing and to preventing crime. We have some significant anxiety, however, about the current initiative in Glasgow and about the messages coming from both police and more »

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The Legacy Of The Kobe Bryant Rape Case

On June 30, 2003, Kobe Bryant arrived at the Cordillera Lodge and Spa in Edwards, Colorado. After a frustrating season that saw the Los Angeles Lakers fail to win a fourth straight championship, Bryant was in town for an operation on his knee. A 19-year-old concierge at the hotel showed the superstar and his security more »

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In the news: April 10 -15

Why dress codes can’t stop sexual assault by Mikki Kendall When news broke that deputy principal Cherith Telford at Henderson High School in New Zealand told female students that their uniform skirts must be knee-length in order to “keep our girls safe, stop boys from getting ideas and create a good work environment for male more »

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We are blind to an epidemic of domestic abuse by @polblonde

When Helen Titchener stabbed her domineering husband in an episode of The Archers last weekend, it seemed as though everyone wanted to talk about domestic abuse. People who had never heard of “coercive control”, the kind of behaviour Helen has been subjected to in the long-running Radio 4 series, suddenly wanted to know what it was. more »

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