Everyday Victim Blaming

challenging institutional disbelief around domestic & sexual violence and abuse

June, 2014

Barriers to Reporting – “those women” and “those men”

Two of the pillars that underpin the many barriers to reporting domestic and sexual violence are the myths of “those women” and “those men”. Those women are weak, dishevelled, vulnerable.  They stare out at us from sexual and domestic abuse awareness posters, with their black eyes and tear-filled eyes.  When we experience abuse we don’t more »

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The normalisation of gendered violence:The importance of allowing women and girls to name their experience of violation as real.

I recently read a blog on The Guardian’s website describing how some male students at Oxford University are wearing white ribbons to protest against and acknowledge the very real experiences of their fellow female students of sexual violence and misogynistic behaviour on campus. The campaign ‘It Happens Here’ has seen a number of women come more »

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My letter to Leadership Journal, Christianity Today & #TakeThatPostDown:

On June 9th, Leadership Journal (part of Christianity Today) published a piece – several pages long – by a youth pastor convicted of sexual abuse of a child. I will not link to it: it is horrific in its justifications, appalling it it’s narrative. Needless to say one section of the internet at least has more »

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Survivor Privilege, Fairies, Unicorns and Other Myths – a response to George Will

Survivor Privilege, Fairies, Unicorns and Other Myths (In response to the George Will article which appeared in both the New York Post and the Washington Post, also referenced by Think Progress here: http://thinkprogress.org/health/2014/06/09/3446557/washington-post-college-rape/). Washington Post pundit George Will has finally blown the whistle on the big secret – those of us who have been lucky more »

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Barriers Continue to Thwart Victims Of Domestic Violence and Sexual Abuse From Accessing Services

The debate that revolves around the accessibility of essential services by victims of domestic violence and sexual abuse often reveals the inadequacies that exist and how agencies still lack visibility. This has time and again led to victims who are in desperate need of access to services, being left with no support. The lack of more »

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Ally Fogg and Naming the Problem

When does it become acceptable for a group of people to own an issue? Racism has killed white people and the families who lost their child are the victims of a heinous crime. But these were racially incited incidents, not a trend. White people do not have issues to fight because of their race; as a more »

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Ally Fogg, Mankind & the erasure of male violence

I quite liked the beginning of Ally Fogg’s latest piece, about the ManKind ad purporting to show the cruel indifference of the public to the silent plight of male victims of female domestic violence. I am not a fan of advertisements or public service broadcasts which purport to be scientific experiments. […] So while I’m more »

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Abuse is not…..something that men experience just as much as women.

(cross-posted with permission from Always Hopeful) Recently an advert from the organisation ‘Mankind Initiative’ who support male victims of domestic abuse has been doing the rounds. The advert concludes with the statistic that 40% of domestic abuse victims are men.You can read an article about the advert which contains a response to it from Women’s more »

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