Everyday Victim Blaming

challenging institutional disbelief around domestic & sexual violence and abuse

May, 2014

Why don’t ‘those women’ just stay away from abusive men?!

Hello, it’s Maya. I’m not sure whether you will remember me since my other postings on the site. I just want to say a bit about blame. It is probably not that coherent, because my hyper-vigilance is through the roof and I cannot concentrate. I wish it was as simple as ‘staying away’ from abusive more »

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Compassion: The Key to Raising Awareness

For many people, victim blaming is not a conscious decision, and often they are unaware of language choices. Attempts to challenge these comments, though necessary, often result in defensive responses that create additional barriers rather than receptiveness to our work. Why do people react so negatively to challenge? Often it’s because the person speaking doesn’t more »

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Complaint regarding BBC Breakfast coverage of the UCSB shooting, Sunday 25th May 2014

To whom it may concern, I wanted to make a complaint regarding the reporting of the UCSB shooting on Saturday 24th May, being reported on BBC Breakfast on Sunday 25th May 2014. I was very angry and disappointed that BBC Breakfast chose to report on this tragic case in a very irresponsible manner, entirely erasing more »

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The Blame Game (Content Note)

I have wanted to write for a year now, about my experience with violence in a relationship. I feel sick every time I write a few words, so apologies if this is not written eloquently. I tried to keep a diary about my progress a while ago but I found it too painful to keep more »

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New CPS Domestic Homicide Guidance

“Last week saw the publication of new legal guidance by the CPS on prosecuting Domestic Homicide. An important step, brought about by extensive discussions with us, the family and friends of Joanna Simpson who was killed by her estranged husband in 2010. Despite preparing a grave beforehand, her killer could be acquitted of murder due more »

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What are we waiting for?

Whenever a male celebrity is in the media because the CJS are pursuing allegations of his abuse and violence against women and children,  I momentarily stop. And wait. I am not sure what I am waiting for, I don’t dare to believe that those accused of male violence be will be found guilty in a more »

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Men’s violence against women & obfuscation by the media

Recently an article was published on the BBC news website called Domestic Violence: One month’s death toll by Alex Morrison. It used the recent conviction of David Gikawa, who murdered Linah Keza last year, to ask how commonplace such crimes actually are. So far, so good. Domestic violence is a huge issue and it is more »

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Living in the shadow

Hopefully, you will not have to experience domestic abuse within your life although current statistics show that 1 in 4 women (womansaid.org) and a growing number of men (mankind.org) will be a victim of domestic violence/abuse in their lifetime so the probability of you personally knowing someone who experiences it (even if you don’t realise more »

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