Everyday Victim Blaming

challenging institutional disbelief around domestic & sexual violence and abuse

November, 2013

Victim blaming is not just about hurt feelings. It helps create more victims.

Perpetrators of any crime need to overcome barriers in order to do it. External barriers, such as a locked door or a victim’s resistance; and internal barriers, such as their own discomfort with what they are doing, worries about the consequences, and understanding of social stigma. I want to talk about these barriers in sexual more »

Normalized…(Content Note – Rape)

The Guardian online this week (27.11.2013): “Sexual Coercion is becoming normalised, warns researcher…” http://www.theguardian.com/society/2013/nov/26/rise-women-coerced-into-sex-uk-survey-finds?CMP=twt_gu I read, and re-read that sentence this afternoon – the thought that follows reading is always ‘so does that mean there was a time when it *wasn’t* normal’? I forced to think about my first ‘boyfriend’ – I still use the more »

Domestic Violence victims still need to be perfect to be deemed “Real” victims

So the discovery that Nigella Lawson may not a perfect victim and therefore not a victim at all, has at last been made.  Allison Pearson in the Telegraph today (although one wonders why it wasn’t in the Mail, what with it being very Daily Mailish an’ all) declares gravely that: “if the Grillo sisters turn more »

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BBC Radio 4 Today – the same, tired old rape myths dressed up as Flagship News

At Ending Victimisation and Blame, we have become increasingly concerned about how the BBC, on radio and television, reports cases of violence against women and children. We have come across countless examples of the BBC reinforcing rape myths in their coverage as well as minimising male violence against female partners.[1] Coverage of the report “If more »

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Paedophile: Misleading language & child sexual abuse.

We have become increasingly concerned about the (mis)use of the word ‘paedophile’, particularly on social media. We wanted to write a short and succinct piece about the problems with using this word, and we’ve referred to Prof Liz Kelly’s piece Weasel Words: Paedophiles and the Cycle of Abuse and the Child & Women Abuse Studies more »

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#ManWeek: My first Love – How fathers will prevent domestic homicides.[1]

At Ending Victimisation and Blame, we support all campaigns that seek to end the epidemic of violence against women and children [2]. We believe that the answer to this epidemic lies in both the education of men to prevent abuse and the non-judgemental support of women and children through the NHS, social services, police services, more »

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‘Strong Women” can experience violence (or why I can’t stand the ‘strong woman’ stereotype).

This post was sent to us by email, and is written by Lyndsay Kirkham. Trigger Warning: Intimate Partner Violence. Perched on the bathtub’s porcelain edge, cradling the phone in my hand I could hear the voice of a disbelieving woman, her whispers barely audible. She was asking how, with a degree in Women Studies, with more »

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