Everyday Victim Blaming

challenging institutional disbelief around domestic & sexual violence and abuse

August, 2013

My Experience as a Child (Content Note)

When I was about 10 years old and had not a care in the world something shifted and the 30-odd years since then have been based on the experience I had at that tender age. We lived in a relatively happy household (there were arguments of course but no more than most) and while I more »

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Making Victims of Victims

(Content – discusses child abuse and uses gendered insults) Being a transsexual woman I’ve been called a rapist repeatedly by some feminists. Some days I can cope with it and some days it triggers what I can only describe as a kind of PTSD. I don’t know how to describe this. I experienced sexual abuse more »

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“Miley Cyrus: The Reason Why I Never Want To Have A Daughter”

This article (http://elitedaily.com/life/miley-cyrus-the-reason-why-i-never-want-to-have-a-daughter/ ) caught my eye on my Facebook feed, having been shared as an informative and considered deconstruction of Miley Cyrus’s performance and society’s ills today. Only it wasn’t informative. And it wasn’t considered. It’s a demonstration of blatant institutionalised and social misogyny. If the misogyny entrenched title from male writer Preston Waters more »

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Victim blaming in the USA

TW: Rape, suicide. Does Ending Victimisation & Abuse have a USA equivalent? They are desperately needed. A judge sentence a teacher to 30 days for raping a 14 year old because she was “older than her chronological age” and “as much in control of the situation”. The 14 year old killed herself shortly before her more »

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All In The Family

My victim blaming experience was complicated because my abuser is not a stranger, he is my father. By the time I reached my teenaged years, we were estranged. But I could not break free of his abuse entirely because he was the gatekeeper for my mother. Through my twenties and thirties, my father’s abuse towards more »

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Victim blaming of people with mental illness

This article I read today, by a man who suffers from depression, basically re-iterates the prevailing view that depressed people are “narcissistic”, that suicide is selfish, and that it’s possible to cure oneself of suicidal impulses simply by ruminating about how selfish suicide is. No other category of illness inspires victim blaming the way mental more »


I felt safe. (*Content note – description of rape)

This just happend about a month ago. It was a friday night/saturday morning. I’m 16 and I live with my mom and our roomate that lives downstairs with her son. My mom and the roomate work together painting houses and they were staying at our roomates relates house while working out of town. A while more »

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Abuse in a Long-Term Relationship and Recovery

After graduating high school with honors and an outstanding GPA, I did what was expected of me and went off to attend a university. I had a wonderful boyfriend at the time who loved and respected me. Unfortunately, we went to separate schools and the distance proved to be too much for us. Even though more »

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“Why didn’t you report him sooner???” and double standards

I was sexually abused by my drug-addicted biological parents from the time I was born until I was 5. This resulted in PTSD which is still present today in my 20s. I was taken from their home and adopted shortly after. What happened to me was publicized and, of course, no one blamed me. When more »

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